Thursday, October 9, 2014

Laughing It Off: When to stop asking and start praising

In the interest of publicly announcing my deepest and most personal dreams and desires, today I give you:

Laughing It Off: When to stop asking and start praising

I recently started reading “The Circle Maker” by Mark Batterson.  Now, don’t hold it against the man that he has a last name that looks like a typo version of “Patterson”. :-) Here’s the book description from Amazon:



According to Pastor Mark Batterson in his book, The Circle Maker, “Drawing prayer circles around our dreams isn’t just a mechanism whereby we accomplish great things for God. It’s a mechanism whereby God accomplishes great things in us.” Do you ever sense that there’s far more to prayer, and to God’s vision for your life, than what you’re experiencing? It’s time you learned from the legend of Honi the Circle Maker—a man bold enough to draw a circle in the sand and not budge from inside it until God answered his prayers for his people. What impossibly big dream is God calling you to draw a prayer circle around? Sharing inspiring stories from his own experiences as a circle maker, Mark Batterson will help you uncover your heart’s deepest desires and God-given dreams and unleash them through the kind of audacious prayer that God delights to answer.

I feel the need for a disclaimer here.  I do not subscribe to the “prosperity gospel” of Joel Osteen.  I don’t believe that God exist solely to make us happy, and that if we simply ask for it, we can have that sports car we always wanted.  Note that Mark says “God accomplishes great things IN us", not FOR us.  I believe that we exist to bring glory to God and further His kingdom, whether good or bad things are happening to us.  Here’s an excerpt from an article that I think describes my sentiments very well:

When the heart seeks the Lord, it is satisfied with what it finds there, and its true desires are realized in Him. But loving and desiring God is far from natural for us.  Therefore, the first and most important prayers in the life of a Christian are “Make me love You above all else” and “Make me want what You want” because when we truly desire God and long to see the Kingdom of God realized in our lives and in the lives of others, when we are passionate to see His will and His work in this world, and we ask for the things that bring Him glory and increase our closeness to Him, He is eager and willing to give us anything we ask for… We must never doubt that, when we pray for what is in His will, we will receive it, and that what we receive from Him will always be that which is best.


Alright, back to the point of the blog post.  I have many hopes and dreams.  I hope to one day land a dream job (I already have a job) in the field of student affairs and put my degree to even better use; one that works more directly with students and that I can’t wait to go to every day.  I dream of traveling the world.  I hope to live somewhere that actually experiences winter, at least for a couple of years.  I dream of being debt-free one day very soon.  But along with all these and more, God has placed in my heart an overwhelming desire to become a wife and mother. 

Scoff if you must.  Blame it on my southern heritage.  Blame it on pressures from society on women my age.  Blame it on an underlying need for romantic, male companionship.  These are all things I’ve blamed it on before.  I have been on my knees begging God to take this desire from me if it isn’t His will for me, over and over and over again.  “Make your will my will.  Help me to want what you want for me, Lord.  Give me patience to wait on Your timing. Give me the faith to trust You with my dreams.”  I have been angry over these words; I have sobbed over these prayers.  In the most literal sense I could accomplish, I have poured out my heart to Jesus.  I have hated myself for being preoccupied with what I call “the husband hunt”.  Those days that I don’t enjoy  see the value in being single are very hard.

In the Circle Maker, Batterson talks about when we should stop asking God for something and start praising Him for it, instead.  There comes a time when we have to recognize that God has answered a prayer, and then it’s your turn to say thank you.  Then it occurred to me: God has already answered my prayer.  I asked so many times, and that desire never went away; I’m confident it’s because it is part of His will for me to be a wife and mother someday.  I don’t have to obsess over whether my heart is in rebellion against His will.  I asked, and He replied.  Now I know that it is part of God’s plan for my life that I marry a Godly man and that our marriage glorifies God in return.

Now, all I have to do is praise God for what He has already done.  I am praising Him for the amazing man He is currently molding into the future spiritual leader of my household.  I am praising Him for my future marriage and my future children.  I am praising Him for the gifts He is developing in me that I will one day contribute to my roles as wife and mother for the betterment of my family and the glory of God.

Since I’ve grasped this concept, I’m much less preoccupied with when and where I’ll meet “the one”.  I have been much more focused on finding peace and fulfillment in God.  I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders!  I am so grateful for His promises and for this amazing revelation that allows me to believe in those promises even more.


In a later post, I’ll tell you more about the uncomfortable process of God’s answering my prayers to mold me into a better wife and mother.  I truly believe I haven’t found my husband yet because I’m not ready.  I have a lot to learn about running a household and managing a family.  There’s a saying, “Be careful what you wish for.”  FALSE.  Be careful what you ask God for.  Stay tuned!

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